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Tuesday, May 10, 2016

Saving on a Tight Budget

~I decided to write a few words on budgeting this morning because I'm currently trying to aid my mother with a budget (Since my father passed away, she's had major changes), as well as my adult kids are living life. Life happens to all of us and there is help available , you will find it under the words: budget and self responsibility. 
Saving on a Shoe String Budget
$ Money, Money, Money. The mighty dollar and how to save. $ 
Cash, Money, Money.

Make a commitment to yourself. If you're in a relationship, get your significant other, and family member's agreement to support the new budget plan. "We can do this!" and "Let us do this together!" Can go a long way in a household of folks wanting to make change happen in their home. A fun family idea that I used involved putting up a central jar for all family member's to contribute their change to (negative words cost $.25 each word. Once enough was saved, it was a fun pizza night!) 

Don't start the new year short on cash; saving money is possible. It's imperative that you save when your discretionary dollars are limited, because when your budget is tight, one random expense can derail your life, making a huge impact because it's harder to come up with the money! Finding a way to start saving money so that unexpected expenses aren't so devastating may not be easy. But shifting your thought patterns can yield long-term results. Being a "saver," may come natural to some; however, it is not natural to most people. 

Having a mindset of a "spender" is the current American way. It is too easy to put that "on sale" item on a credit card with a 20% interest rate because you're saving money, while the reality is after you pay off the bill, the item cost more than regular price. Any and everyone can become a Saver, it can be developed through practice. 


Eight Ways to save money when money is tight.



1. Shop smarter (Collect coupons, read the store's newspaper, compare prices, make detailed lists, and rid yourself of impulse buying!) [Grocery Coupon Apps: http://www.squawkfox.com/2014/01/15/grocery-apps/] Great grocery saving ideas: http://www.mymoneycoach.ca/blog/budget-grocery-shopping-tips-to-save-money.html
2. Keep the change (Make additional games to save money with this old fashioned idea: every time you think of having an expensive latte coffee, put that $3.95- $5.00 [http://hackthemenu.com/starbucks/menu-prices/coffee-espresso/] into your jar, or whenever you visit an ATM, find your bank using GPS on your phone and save that $2.00 fee into your jar!  Add your loose change to your emergency fund every month). 
3 Pay yourself first (Decide on a percentage and make it a priority over that new purse you have your eye on. By saving each month first, then paying fixed expenses and lastly, budgeting the rest for variable spending, you will not be as overwhelmed, because you "have a plan.") 
4. ***Stop using credit cards (If may be old fashioned to pay with a checkbook, but it's harder to part with cash, while you're keeping track in the checkbook ledger, than to slap a plastic card down with the pay later mentality). Another, more modern day version of this practice is to keep a running log in your phone/ I-Pad for every single cent spent, or in a notebook. Tally each dollar spent from the budgeted amount. You can't overspend if you are subtracting and you will be aware of where your money is actually going. Hum, $5.00 for a drink? Forget it! I'll sip my flavored water out of the thermos I brought with me; thank you! 
5. Make it automatic (Arrange an agreement with your bank to move $10 a month into your emergency fund, while moving $20 into your long-term future home fund). 
6. Save with purpose ( Label your saved fund with a name: emergency, new apartment deposit, car repair fund, or even a date night fund).  

7. Create a budget (I use a spreadsheet program on my computer. Create "cells," or squares that re-calculate as your expenses or income changes). Your main expenses will be fixed amounts (and choose wisely your fixed expenses, make your rent affordable at your income level), food, clothing, entertainment is not fixed. Come up with a number, like $100 for groceries and entertainment for the month. Take that cash out of the bank and stick to the plan, not taping into other funds because you want to "have a drink out." Each month try to lower that amount by $10; you will find money that you never knew you had. Once you've grown accustomed to living on your budget, you'll open up more money for saving toward various goals.  
8. Stay committed. 

***More on Credit Cards, because they are the worst vandals: 
If you don't have the cash, you don't need it! 

If you don't have any money to save at the end of the month, you shouldn't be putting more onto credit cards. The top priority goal needs to be to pay them down and get rid of them so that you can start to work from a cash basis as opposed to a debt basis. Rather than using credit cards to fund living expenses that are beyond your means, or are outside of your income, cut out nonessentials and focus on eliminating your use of credit cards. If your extra cash each month is spent on making credit card payments, you'll never be able to save and get closer to your financial goals.
 (Funny and great article from a former shopaholic: 
http://forevertwentysomethings.com/2011/08/18/finance-tips-from-a-shopaholic-10-steps-to-save-on-a-recent-grads-budget/). 


And, then the biggy: Where it all starts, You must have a full-time job. That is just starters! If there is debt, it is wise to continue paying yourself first; taking on more hours or even a second job to pay down the debt.

Additional Great articles: 
Ideas and organizations to help if you are attempting to save on a shoe-string:
http://www.americasaves.org/for-savers/make-a-plan-how-to-save-money/saving-on-a-tight-budget
I found this article funny and if you read further into peoples comments, you will find great ideas (thinking outside of the box for great savings!):
 http://www.bankrate.com/finance/smart-spending/the-craziest-thing-i-did-to-save-money-2.aspx
Ideas of things to do, instead of spending money: 
http://www.figuringmoneyout.com/50-things-to-do-instead-of-spending-money/

Thursday, March 31, 2016

Essential Oil Recipes! Diffuser, Allergies, Afterbite roller, Anti-Snore, Anti-Fugus/Bacteria, Eyelash growth, Baby wipes, Lip balm

Essential Oil Recipes!

I've been enjoying the use of essential oils; the following are the recipes I've been making in our household. I'll keep adding more recipes, as I come up with more that are a success for our family. 


I've been using DoTerra, but I'm also experimenting with other brands, as well as researching the "best oils." I may do a follow-up post on the results. 

FAV's: My current favorite DoTerra oils are: OnGuard, Slim & Sassy, Zendocrine, DigestZen, Frankincense and Motivate.


My current FAV diffusing recipes: 

Pollen be Gone:
I live in Atlanta, pollen count is crazy! Allergies are a problem!
Ingredients:
2 drops peppermint
2 drops lemon
2 drops lavender
or
Breathe (at night)

Study Time:
(You could call it the anti-ADD too).
Ingredients:
2 drops peppermint
2 drops wild orange
or
2 drops rosemary
2 drops wild orange

Chill:
Ingredients:
2 drops frankincense
2 drops balance
1 drop vetiver (optional; it is more sedating for evening)

Welcome!:
Ingredients:
2 drops rosemary
2 drops lavender
2 drops lemon
or 
Elevation also smells welcoming. 

Where I get my essential oils from:  http://www.doterra essential oils

Here are the diffusers that I use and love: 


I have these two 500ml diffusers in my great room:


http://smile.amazon.com/Aglaia-Aromatherapy-Essential-Ultrasonic-Humidifier/dp/B014F4UXDA/?ie=UTF8&refRID=0B3D679E86F976GCMG3Y&dpSrc=sims&dpID=41K5X%2B3XKGL&ref=pd_sim_201_7&preST=_AC_UL160_SR160%2C160_
And


http://www.amazon.com/dp/B0118QC1BA/?ref=cm_sw_r_pi_dp_KZr1wb0HS3GGG


I use this 100 ml in my bedroom:


http://www.amazon.com/URPOWER-Essential-Humidifier-Adjustable-Waterless/dp/B00Y2CQRZY/?qid=1456806923&s=hpc&sr=1-1-spell&keywords=diffusers+lrpower&ie=UTF8&ref=sr_1_sc_1_s_it
~For the links: copy and paste them into your browser, this post looked strange with all the links active, because they were all an ugly orange shade.;-/

Fav all purpose cleaner:

This it the recipe I've settled on for cleaning my counters, and etc. I usually make one batch, filling a large glass sprayer for me, and one small sprayer each for my mom's (my mother and my mom-in-law). (Most recipes that I make, I send out at least two small size gifts for family or friends).


I usually write on a sticker the recipe, and stick it onto the bottle.

Ingredients:
1 Tbl OnGuard cleaner concentrate
20 drops Purity
20 drops Wild Orange
1 cup vinegar
1 cup water
1/2 cup rubbing alcohol


Fav outdoor must have:
I'm always on the lookout for ways to use old standards, like witch hazel. Here is a recipe I've been using for: Sunburn and bug bites. It is also good for perinuem issues and hemorrhoids. ;-) 

Bites be Gone:
Ingredients:
2 drops peppermint
3 drops lavender
Witch hazel to fill 1 oz spray or roller glass bottle. 
Package deal for various glass containers: 
http://www.lovingessentialoils.com/products/20-pc-tool-kit?utm_campaign=Pinterest%20Buy%20Button&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Pinterest&utm_content=pinterest-buy-button-08bfb317f-2f84-4942-a79c-7f5634c15043



Anti-Snoring treatment:My next ToDo project is to formulate an anti-snoring remedy. I haven't tried this yet, due to not having the more costly ingredients, but I've researched various herbs and have come up with the following recipe: 


"Be Gone %#@!" Snoring:

5 drops rose
3 drops clary sage
3 drops roman chamomile
3 drops marjoram
2 drops eucalyptus (optional: globulus)
2 drops myrtle 
1 Tbl fractionated coconut oil

Application:
At bedtime: Rug  onto chest (not on breasts), neck (including back of neck), shoulders and back.


Fav Allergic Reaction treatment; or what I enjoy saying, "die fungus & bacteria," stuff:


My dog is allergic to everything! Meat, grass, and wheat, so he experiences itchy feet, bacterial and fungal infections on his tail and in his ears regularly. His prescribed food is made only of fish and sweet potato; which we can now find cheaper at Pet Smart. We had been giving him an anti-bacterial ear drop and skin medicines; however, the chronic use of medication is not good! So, I made up this topical and it has worked extremely well for him. I experimented before I decided on this recipe, and I found the most effective ingredient to killing fungus or bacteria on him was oregano! ~It is powerful, so I'd be careful not to not put it on directly onto a pet's skin, without diluting it first. 

BTW, this recipe is great for people too. 








Be Gone Fungus Bacteria!:
Or what we call it, Puppy Cure: 
Ingredients:
12 drops of lavender
12 drops of oregano
7 drops of onguard
4 drops of frankincense
3 drops of digestzen or ginger
3 drops of immortelle
1 drop of rosemary 
1 drop basil
1 Tbl aloe vera
1 drop calendula oil (optional)
1 drop of weak cloves** (Optional; I infused the weak olive oil mixtures myself, using low heat and about a 1/2C of cloves with fractionated coconut oil); giving a weaker, less concentrated version. 
1 drop of weak garlic**(Optional; Over low heat, I infused my garden's garlic bunches into fractionated coconut oil; giving a weaker, less concentrated version. 
**Due to potential garlic and clove toxicity issues for small dogs; I prefer the weaker concentrate).
1 Tbl. or 1/2 oz fractionated coconut oil

Directions:
Add the first 12 ingredients to your glass bottle; I get the aloe vera into the bottle by using a small funnel. Then I add the coconut oil into the funnel, which gets the rest of the soothing aloe vera into the mix. Mix ingredients by shaking the 1 oz. glass bottle. I purchased a dropper for application. Two links:
http://www.amazon.com/Perfume-Studio%C2%AE-Dropper-Bottles-Essential/dp/B016SH32GM/ref=pd_sim_sbs_79_1?ie=UTF8&dpID=41TqLad0U0L&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR147%2C160_&refRID=04NY8ZMFX0YB8N5PWJMG
or
https://www.ebottles.com/showbottles-bottle-1508-kw-ELIQUID_DROPPER_BOTTLES.htm

Application:
For a skin infection:  Apply topically, making sure to not get into eyes, privates or nose. Once your pet has been diagnosed with dermatitis or skin allergies, tests can find what pollen's, dusts, insects or molds cause their allergic reaction; however, it will not test food allergies that cause skin rashes.


For an ear infection: Dilute Bragg organic apple cider with sterile water  (50% to 50% ratio). Fill ear until full of liquid and rub around; then let him shake them. Carefully q-tip or cotton ball out the black infection. Add two drops of essential herb oil mixture to each ear and rub ear around. This last step is my dogs favorite part. 
Great video if your afraid to use q-tips:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4odbAlDRiz0



Eyelash Growth Nourish:




Eyelash Serum:
Ingredients:

Use fractionated coconut oil or the solid variety, vitamin E oil or organic castor oil as main ingredient.
 2 drops each of lavender & lemon. 10 oz. roller glass bottle.

Application:
Apply roller to under eye skin area; gently rub lashes into oil.  Note: don't get Essential oils into your eyes. 

Here is the brand I buy. Link to buy:  http://www.amazon.com/Castor-Organic-Pressed-Virgin-Dr-Adorable/dp/B00H5WB1OU


For cobalt blue glass:
I just love the cobalt blue color, but they usually cost a bit more than the clear or brown. Due to the variety of choices and price, I usually purchase glass from Amazon. I make care packages for my family, so I send out a lot of containers ;0)

Link to Amazon; I search for whatever container I'm looking for on their website: http://www.amazon.com/Rioa-Essential-Oils-Roller-Bottles/dp/B015IR3SB2


FAV Wipes:

I use wipes for most things; I like to keep them handy in the car and my "baby" is 17! Lol. 

Easy Baby Wipes:

Ingredients:

1 roll of heavy duty paper towels like Bounty.
2 ¼ cups of water (or distilled, which will last longer than one week)
2 Tbsp baby bath
15 drops of lavender or favorite essential oil that is approved for babies.
1 Tbl baby oil
Cut paper towels in half with an electric knife. Place in a plastic container, add liquid. Remove cardboard center and pull wipes from the center.


Or

Completely Natural Baby Wipes:

Ingredients:

1 roll heavy duty paper towels like Bounty
1 ¾ Cups water (or distilled, which will last longer than one week)
1 Tbl aloe vera
1 Tbl witch hazel extract
1 Tbl liquid castile soap
6 drops grapefruit
6 drops wild orange
6 drops lavender
1 ½ tea vitamin E oil
1 tea almond oil



FAV Lips:

Chap-stick or lip balm:

Ingredients & links to find what I buy at bottom:

3 tea. Or 1 Tbl Or ½ ounce beeswax
3 tea. Or 1 Tbl Or ½ ounce pure solid coconut oil 
1 ½ tea. Or ½ Tbl Or ¼ ounce shea butter
1 ½ tea. Or ½ Tbl Or ¼ ounce cocoa butter
15-30 drops favorite flavor of essential oil http://www.doterra essential oils (my fav's: wild orange, lemon or rose)
2 tea vanilla extract

Instructions:
Microwave mixture in a Glass measuring cup; stirring frequently, until melted.

Links to buy:
Beeswax:

Saturday, August 13, 2011

A Quick Guide to Help jumpstart a happier, healthier, thinner you!

Here is a monthly plan to a happier, healthier, thinner you! Start living a better quality of life today. Model after choices that are known to increase happiness and it will make you happier too! This is a brief guide to help jump-start you into your new routine. Jump in on any day, pick up where ever you are when you read this `Just be sure to cover all your bases. A monthly plan to a happier, healthier and thinner you! You can start living a better life today. 



Sunday, August 21:


Fill your shopping cart using a healthy grocery list: Sunscreen, face moisturizer, a multi-vitamin, vitamin D and calcium, healthy snack foods like: low-fat cottage cheese or low-sugared yogurts (I like vanilla flavored Activia, and Dan Active), fruit like mango’s and watermelon (cut up and place in refrigerator in Tupperware once home), baby carrots or broccoli to dip into cottage cheese, cherry tomatoes, any berries like blueberries are an antioxidant, almonds & sunflower seeds. For meal items grab wholegrain products like Quinoa, wheat berries, and brown rice, get into Omega 3 by selecting fish like salmon, sea bass, orange roughy, grouper and mahi mahi (if you dislike fish, pick up an omega 3 supplement). Choose green leafy vegetables like spinach, or grab some asparagus to give yourself needed vitamins, minerals and fiber.


Monday, August 22:


Spread your calories throughout the day. Cravings aren’t always born out of hunger but if your stomach is slightly growling, it can make for a convenient excuse to indulge. If you graze lightly throughout the day on your prepared snacks, instead of heaping on the massive portions during mealtime, you’re less likely to rationalize that mid-day bag of chips.
Tuesday, August 23:
According to a recent study, Tuesday is the most stressful day of the week because most of the work is still ahead of you. For anybody who works, in or outside the home, the weight of the week's workload and to-do lists can be a heavy thought. The key to stress management is not eliminating stress, but rather, finding better ways to cope with the stress everyday life brings. Take a walk around the outside of your office, or in the morning before work. Try giving yourself a foot massage! This is one you can do while at work at your desk!


Instructions:
Take your shoes off. Take the heel of one foot and press it against the sole of the other foot. Rub the heel into the sole. This motion generates heat at a pressure point responsible for energy and vitality. Repeat with the other foot.



Wednesday, August 24:



This is where fake it until you make it comes in. Being grateful, expressing gratitude is good for our overall well-being, but until it becomes a habit, we may find that complaining is more our Go-To style. We need to work on seeing the glass half full, our brain wants to align with our actions, this will provide us support on the way to happiness. Notice little positives and say thank you to the individual responsible. Thank you, husband. Thank you, God. Thank you universe. Not only will you feel better, but other's will be watching from your example (especially our kids). If we wait until we "feel moved," we may never begin. Choosing to act grateful for what we have is a move toward happiness that everyone can do! 


Thursday, August 25:


Take Your Vitamin D
Pop vitamin D daily and you may be adding years to your life. A 2007 study of over 57,000 adults -- mostly middle-aged and elderly people in good health -- in Europe, the U.S. and the U.K. showed that those taking vitamin D (as opposed to a placebo) were 7 percent less likely to die during the span of the study. The authors don't know exactly why vitamin D seemed to increase life span, but the vitamin is known to offer many benefits, including strengthening the immune system and building bones. Without vitamin D, calcium cannot be utilized in the body. So, to prevent osteoporosis, taking a calcium supplement without vitamin D voids the calcium benefits.


It also lowers the risk of being diagnosed with diabetes, cancer, high blood pressure and heart and kidney disease. You can get vitamin D from the sun, but most people don't spend enough time outdoors -- or in sunny enough climates -- to take in an adequate amount. FDA guidelines issued in November 2010 boosted the recommended daily dose to 400 International Units per day for people over nine (people 71 years and older should take 800 mg daily), combined with a diet rich in the vitamin. Foods with loads of vitamin D include mackerel, fortified yogurt and orange juice, whole eggs and Swiss cheese. 

Friday, August 26:


Have sex!

Have sex! A Queens University study found that men who had sex 3 times a week reduce their risk of having a heart attack by half. The same likely holds true for women, though quality may be more important than quantity. The average American only has sex once a week. The goal here is to engage in two intimate encounters a week. Safe, monogamous sex helps to reduce pain and stress, and improves immunity. Sex is a natural way to feel healthier - and burn off some calories.Talk about a two-for-one deal: Having sex not only offers pleasure, but it may also extend your lifespan by eight years. You probably don't need a scientist to tell you that regular sex relieves stress, improves sleep and increases intimacy with your partner. But it also boosts immunity and makes you look better (a Scottish study showed couples with a healthy sex life may look up to seven years younger than those with a ho-hum bedroom ritual). The sum total of all those benefits may just be a longer life. British researchers found that men who had sex once a week were less likely to die in the next 10 years than men who had sex less than once a month. Meanwhile, a Duke University study showed that compared to women who were indifferent with their sex lives, women who were happy with their sex lives lived seven to eight years longer.
Saturday, August  27:

Hang Out with Friends
Spending time with friends cuts your risk of an early death in half, according to a recent study out from Brigham Young University. "A lack of social relationships was equivalent to smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day," the research team's head, Julianne Holt-Lunstad, told Reuters. The study, which pulled information from over 300,000 participants in 148 studies, found that strong social relationships have an extremely positive effect on health. The authors found that having close social relationships may be more beneficial to longevity than pneumonia vaccines and hypertension drugs. "Throughout human history, we have relied on others for survival such as protection and food, and despite modern advancements that may help with certain aspects of survival so that we can live more independently, it appears that our relationships nonetheless still impact odds of survival," said Holt-Lunstad.
Go ahead and indulge, lightly. We never fully outgrow our inner child, and parents know the cardinal rule with kids is when you say they can’t have something, they want it more. Same goes for your own cravings. The more you deny yourself sweets, the more you’ll want them. Sweets shouldn’t be completely taboo, but they should be considered the occasional reward, enjoyed in bites not boxes.

Keep it brief. So you’ve caved into that piece of cake. All is not lost. Try to limit your indulgence to a few bites, savoring the flavor and texture but avoiding the complete annihilation of the object of desire. The satisfaction of tasting your treat will be intense at first but researchers have found that pleasure decreases dramatically after the first few bites. So savor the first few bites slowly and then stop yourself before your start destroying the evidence through your stomach. 

 

Sunday, August 28:

Keep the Faith


Keep the Faith. Believing in a greater power can help you live longer, according to thousands of studies. Most recently, a small 2010 study of liver transplant patients found that patients who had faith were three times more likely to survive four years after transplantation than those without religion. Regardless of creed or churchgoing habits, high religious coping correlated with higher survival rates. A 2006 study also found that regularly attending religious services could add up to three years to life. Though experts aren't sure why, they hypothesize that having a supportive community, a guiding belief and coping mechanisms decrease stress and add purpose to life.


Monday, August 29:
Get More Sleep


This goal is the most important anti-aging secret. The benefits of a good night's rest cannot be understated. People who sleep less than 6 hours a night have an increased risk of heart attack and stroke. Sleeping for as little as 6 hours can also make you crave more sugar. 


The key point is to get closer to the ideal amount of sleep: 7.5 to 8 hours a night. It's important to sleep this much, because it's the end of the sleep cycle that certain regenerative hormones are released; this phase is crucial to brain function.



Tuesday, August 30:


Be Happy
Cutting out stress and doing things that make you smile may just add years to your life. In a 2006 study, Dr. Ruut Veenhoven, a Dutch researcher, found that in healthy people, happiness predicts longevity. In fact, he found, a person's outlook can have as much of an impact on lifespan as whether or not they smoke.

And long-running study of 180 Catholic nuns showed that those who were happy at 22 were likely to live about 10 years longer than those who had a more negative orientation to the world. So how to start feeling dandy?

According to Dan Buettner, who compiled information from 146 countries for his book Blue Zones: Lessons for Living Longer from the People Who've Lived the Longest, there are several things that, universally, make human beings happy and healthy: a stable community, a satisfying job, close friends, financial security and a happy home. Buettner also found that people who know and understand their purpose in life -- and who can therefore follow it -- are 20 percent happier than those who do not.

This advice goes to the heart of a key finding of happiness research: It's important to learn to be content with how our decisions turn out. My children's preschool teacher, Joyce Drolette of Bozeman, MT, sent the girls home repeating what turns out to be a powerful mantra for happiness: "You get what you get and you don't throw a fit." Barry Schwartz’s, a professor of psychology at Swarthmore College, in Pennsylvania, and author of the book The Paradox of Choice, "But if happiness is your goal, that's exactly where you need to aim "research shows that for many people, having multiple options and aspiring for the very best among them causes far more pain than gain.


Schwartz calls these people "maximizers," and we all know them: They are the ones who can't enjoy the balcony at their beach hotel because they see a better balcony around the corner. In fact, maximizers may never even get down to the shore at all. They are so consumed with making the "right" and best choices that they end up paralyzed, unable to decide if they should ask for the pool view or the beach view. For every one of them, though, there is what Schwartz calls a "satisficer": someone totally at peace with her balcony, who goes out there, sits back, and enjoys the view. She knows she chose this hotel at this rate and will relish the fact that she has a few days to escape. In a practical sense, says Schwartz, this means making a deliberate practice of being personally and publicly satisfied with your own decisions and not second-guessing yourself or comparing yourself to others. This may not be your nature, and you might not always succeed, but trying is half the battle.


If you find yourself roiling inside, take a walk, read a book, anything that will refocus your mind. Limiting your family's selection is another proven tactic for making dissatisfaction and regret less likely, says Schwartz. It can help contain that always ultimately fruitless search for the optimal experience.


Wednesday, August 31:


Welcome Aging and lose yourself in the moment
in a society that bows down to youth and
beauty aging can seem like as terrifying as it is inevitable. But research suggests that a long-held positive attitude toward old age can help you experience up to 7.5 years more of it. In Ohio, 660 people age 50 or older were studied. The results? Those with positive self-perceptions of aging lived nearly eight years longer than those with negative self-perceptions. While nobody is sure exactly why, researchers believe that attitude is linked to the will to live -- and that a negative approach to old age, in which a person believes the elderly are weak and unhappy, can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. It has also been shown that unhappy people, those who rage against old age generally have a more difficult time recovering from heart attacks and strokes.

You might also regularly take time to remind your kids about the good things that happened in the past, and what might happen in the future. "Before the family goes to bed each night, we talk about what we're going to dream about," says Shannon Rebolledo, a Wichita, KS, mother of three children under 5. "Usually, it ends up being dreams about things the kids really loved during the day."


Savoring the past is particularly helpful at creating happiness, says Bryant, because it lets you milk a single event. Research has shown that during these reminiscences, the brain actually re-experiences its original sensation of pleasure. Susie Rolander, a mother of three girls under age 8 in New York City, joins her family in saying thankful prayers each night. In her own, she always includes her late mom. "The girls didn't know her, but just thinking about her this way increases my happiness because it brings her into our everyday."


"There are plenty of adults who won't look back on things that are gone forever because they fear it will make them sad," says Bryant. "But we can teach our children that we can relive moments that were precious to us and, in doing so, enjoy them again."

Have you made new habits yet? Continue into your Thursday with your new mind-set and continue for an entire month!




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